6 ideas to make the first date unforgettable

First Date

Being yourself is the most important thing when making the first unforgettable date ; but, of course, it is not the only thing, since certain additional ‘ingredients’ are needed. In this article we will tell you some ideas so that this initial encounter is the most beautiful of all.

Can you make the first unforgettable date?

With ‘unforgettable’ we mean a positive experience, which we will remember forever. Of course, it seems somewhat difficult to achieve for a first meeting, however, the key lies in ‘being ourselves’ and not trying to appear to please the other.

A first date is full of expectations, anxieties and fears; mainly, if we like the other person a lot or if we haven’t dated anyone for a long time. Women can spend hours trying on the ideal attire, buying new clothes and talking with their friends about each accessory.

Men may be a little simpler, but do not neglect their appearance : shaving, cutting their hair and wearing ‘the best shirt’ are in their activities prior to a first date.

It is that, in fact, we want to please the other from the first moment; and it’s okay, so be it. However, this is not enough: we must also like that (almost) unknown person demonstrating our best version . As long as a character is not exaggerated or interpreted, it is good to bring out our virtues.

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Tips to make the first date unforgettable

A first date can be unforgettable without exerting too much ‘pressure’, since the goal is to meet and then to like each other. Do not think so much, being yourself is often enough . Check out these tips that can be of great help for this special meeting.

1. Be true to yourself

This means that if you don’t usually drink alcohol , don’t accept going to a bar. Opt for a cafeteria, a restaurant, a park, a museum or the cinema. If you have the option of proposing the place, choose the one that identifies you or where you feel comfortable . Of course, you must get the approval of the other, so it would be good to choose an establishment that both of them like or where they feel comfortable.

2. Dress comfortably

It is true that we do not usually go to a first date dressed in sportswear or in the same way that we are at home at the weekend; but neither do we have to buy or wear something that does not represent us nor is it true to our style.

With simplicity and a little care we can look great, like and be consistent with our personality . Therefore, if you prefer jeans and you love shoes without heels … Do not hesitate to wear them for your first date!

3. Avoid complaints and regrets

In other words: Don’t talk about your ex! To make an unforgettable first date, problems cannot be the focus of the conversation. Nothing to complain about, complain and much less victimize.

Brings to light interesting, fun, cheerful and enjoyable topics. Put yourself in the place of the other: would you really like to spend two hours hearing how someone sitting in front of you complains about everything, cries for a lost love or laments the things he hasn’t done in his life?

4. Do not pretend

Just as it is not good to wear clothes that do not represent us, it is also not advisable to act or look like someone we are not. Even if you are an excellent actor, leave your artistic skills to the stage.

On a first date what counts is sincerity and being genuine; Therefore, we advise you to show your essence, your tastes, your opinions and your desires. Do not want to pretend something you are not because then you must maintain that lie and start a relationship based on deception never brings good results.

If there is something that you do not like about yourself, at the moment do not say it or demonstrate … There will be time in later meetings to know more in depth. But attention, because that does not mean talking only about your virtues, since you can sin as a ‘ narcissist ‘.

5. Not wanting to please each other forever

It is true that on a first date everything is gallantry and try to please, but for that there is also a limit . For example, if the other says something and you don’t agree … Tell him! No need to settle as if you were a robot or a doll.

Without coming to an argument – which would make the first date unforgettable, but in the bad sense of the word – you can subtly argue against that opinion or expression. If, on the contrary, you accept everything, even if you do not completely agree, it is the same as pretending to be someone you are not .

6. Be interested in the other

The best way to have a pleasant conversation is to show interest in the other . Without reaching the extreme of ‘interrogating’ or ‘interviewing’ we can achieve a pleasant talk if we allow our appointment to tell things about itself. Do not abuse the ‘I’ in the prayers, self-centeredness does not go hand in hand with good relationships.

The benefits of hobbying together

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Everyone has their activities, their obligations and their tasks. Therefore, they often only share a few minutes at night before bedtime. Did you know that hobbying together has many benefits? In this article we tell you.

Why is it good to practice a hobby together?

If you are with a person it is because, surely, they share certain tastes for the same things. From a sport to a band, through trips to the movies or literature.

But the truth is that while at first ‘they did everything together’ with the passage of time each organized their day separately.

It is likely that for a long time they do not share a date as a couple or do not do something that they both like. That is what they need to be completely happy!

Of course, the success lies not only in practicing a hobby together, but in many other issues that have to do with companionship, respect and affection, however, the fact of doing things in two has many benefits:

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1. Greater communication

Whether they go to the same gym or go jogging in the park, attend a play or do a cooking course, be together in an activity outside of everyday life and increase communication.

Simply having to talk about a topic other than money , children or vacations is very beneficial. They can start talking about something related to the activity in common and then have more confidence to devote themselves to more ‘complicated’ topics.

2. More connection

There is nothing more beautiful than being with your partner doing something they like and feel accompanied , in the same harmony, looking in the same direction. Undoubtedly, this activity will connect them more and make the relationship ‘go on wheels’ as it is popularly said.

Of course, connectivity has nothing to do with mobile or laptop. Quite the opposite!

  • It is to be able to look into each other’s eyes and know what the other thinks or feels, without the need for words.
  • Have experiences in common that can be remembered in the future.
  • Enjoy that complicity enjoyed only by those who love each other.

3. Less fights

Many of the reasons why couples argue is for ‘doing nothing together’. That lack of activities of two can lead to monotony, boredom and, therefore, to discussions.

When you take the time to enjoy something in the company of the other, all the daily or daily effort makes sense. So it is worth working so many hours!

4. Less individualism

Being in a couple is not always synonymous with union and companionship these days. Each one is focused on their personal achievements and their obligations. Individualism in a relationship is another reason why marriages are not happy or feel full.

That is why, when practicing a hobby together, we put aside the ‘I’ and start thinking about the ‘we’. It is something really good for both of you and for a lasting and strong relationship to anything that can happen.

How to practice a hobby together?

The options are innumerable and everything depends on the taste of each one. You must take into account something very important so that the benefits really are remarkable and true: both should feel comfortable with the activity.

It is not about imposing on the other to do something just for the fact that ‘it is good for the couple. Therefore, the best way to choose an activity or hobby is to speak freely and express our feelings.

Think, for example, what things united you from the beginning: do sports? Listen to a rock band? Try dishes in different restaurants? go on a trip? Watch movies and series? There are many options and they do not necessarily have to be expensive and put your economy in check.

They can arrange to picnic at the park on Saturday morning if they like the outdoors and the sun; exercising in a place when they return from work; walk around the city admiring the architecture and shop windows or even go to the terrace and admire the stars while hugging and caressing each other.

Other alternatives to practice a hobby together can be:

  • Take free tourist walks where they live.
  • Cook a dish that both love.
  • Watch a movie lying on the couch with a rich cup of coffee or tea (or a good wine can also be).
  • They can even participate in volunteer activities cleaning a beach, planting trees or collaborating in an animal shelter.

By last…

You have to ask yourself, what do I like to do and what does my partner like to do? Even if they don’t believe it, they have more things in common than differences. For something they have been together for so long. It’s just a matter of finding those activities that they are passionate about and seeing how they combine them so that they both have a great time. Cheer up!